Life is fatal. Why isn't it easier to die gracefully?
August 26, 2013 1:08 PM Subscribe
In the event that I have any control over it whatsoever, I want to die well. Recent family events and yesterday's NPR segments (1
) on end-of-life issues raise a fresh wave of questions about how to plan now
for the best possible end later on. Is there anything in the works that looks like a living will but allows us in our younger healthier years to document the preference "if a, b or c happen, just guide me to the light with morphine"? I want to be able to die as peacefully and (perhaps almost as) easily as my pets can. And perhaps I should reserve this additional loaded question for a separate post, but what the hell: why do people care so much?
posted by AnOrigamiLife to law & government (20 answers total) 26 users marked this as a favorite
I'm not so attached to my life that I want to keep living after it's no longer possible to keep living it healthy and happy. If I fall and crack my head and forever after have to have someone feed me and change my diapers, I want to die. No sadness, no struggle to win the right, just let me go and know that's what I want and let me fertilize a flower in a meadow somewhere.
If life becomes so unpleasant, for whatever reason--even if it's not a terminal illness--I want the right to die as comfortably as possible. Best case scenario, where are we headed in this realm? Will it ever get easier? And if so, will it only get easier for those with terminal diagnoses? Is there a movement I can be a part of? In the case of no forward movement, is there a secret society of like-minded people I can join?
For the record, I am and always have been a really positive, happy and healthy person in a loving relationship. We manage our lives simply and well and have wonderful friends. Life is good. But if I'm ever faced with being forced to keep living when I no longer want to, I want to know I've taken whatever measures available. I also don't want anyone to end up in prison for loving enough to help the process along.
If it matters, we're normal middle-class folk in the US who will never be wealthy and will always be freaked out at the expense of health care and the possibility of financial devastation over some unanticipated health problem. Even if we had the ability to purchase long-term care insurance, I'm pretty sure we'd prefer to slip away peacefully before life came to that.