Estranged Parent Dying of Cancer
June 8, 2010 6:09 AM Subscribe
I recently found out my father is dying of cancer. We haven't spoken in over a decade. What are your experiences with reconciliation in this kind of situation?
posted by Otis to Human Relations (22 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
Last week I found out that my father has liver cancer. All the information I'm getting is 2nd hand, but I know he is on targeted drug therapy, so I'm thinking there is not much time.
Our relationship has always been tumultuous, and our history is littered with blowups and drama of all flavors, divorce, alcoholism. It seems we never really even liked each other.
I knew this day would come eventually, but I don't feel like I always thought I would. Instead of feeling indifferent, I feel melancholy, and I keep replaying scenes from our past in my mind, analyzing them, and trying to figure out what went wrong.
I have a sister who has reached out to my father in the past, and she has been constantly rejected. He has grandchildren he has never met.
If you have been though a similar situation, what did you do? How did it work out?