August 18, 2013 5:42 PM Subscribe
Considering starting a family but what happens when baby comes? Do I stay home and he works? Does he stay home and I work? Snowflake details inside, basically help me evaluate my options.
posted by quietta to grab bag (29 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Let's break it down into three scenarios
A: I stay home. I have always wanted to raise my baby myself, at least until they are 2-3 years old. Honestly this is the option that appeals most to me but there is a major drawback. He is very sick of his job and relying on his income alone would tie him to a job he loathes. This is not something I want to do to him.
B: He stays home. This would allow him to quit the job he hates and focus more on his artistic side job. I am hesitant for two reasons. I am afraid I might resent having to work while he takes on the role I always imagined myself in. Also, I am not 100% sure he would be happy with the day to day realities of child-rearing.
C: We both work and baby goes to daycare. This feels more like the cop-out option. No one is forced into leaving their job or staying. I don't like the idea of my child in a room full of other babies at some daycare. This option might be more appealing if I could find a stay at home mom I could pay to watch my baby.
I know that no one else can tell me what is right for me, I would just love some advice on how to weigh my choices. Extra helpful if you have experience with choosing any of these options for yourself.