What do I say?
August 9, 2013 11:22 PM Subscribe
So my fiance and I broke up recently. While a lot of the people in our community know, I continue to encounter situations in which I'm asked, "How's your fiance?" or "What's new with you?" I want them to know so they stop asking me. But if I say, "Actually, we broke up" their face falls and we enter a very awkward conversation full of forced empathy neither of us want to be in. What can I say in a sentence or two to avoid this fate?
posted by ictow to human relations (21 answers total)
Specifically I want to transmit a) hey, this happened b) I'm ok enough given the circumstances c) we don't need to dwell on it d) I'm not interested in helping you process your emotions about this. Basically, I just want to be able to introduce this new information and then smoothly roll on with the conversation, but so far I keep getting stuck. (And obviously this doesn't apply to close friends and therapists, just everyone else.)