Job misery and baby
July 20, 2013 11:34 AM Subscribe
My "glamorous" job just got worse and I have a baby now. Good time to quit?
posted by i_love_squirrels to Work & Money (23 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
When I returned from maternity leave, I got a nasty surprise. They moved me out of my office and changed my job duties. I have tried to talk to my boss and dept head but got nowhere. I have gone to my agency's EEO office but it has only led to a meeting with HR and my boss. Four days later my boss says nothing will change. I am continuing with EEO for now but don't have much hope. Some friends have advised getting a lawyer but realistically that is a long, expensive pain in the ass thing to do. Other friends say just quit.
I had dragged myself to this job for two years before going on maternity leave. It was pretty much intolerable before and is worse now. I actually went to counseling for a few months last year. Just over this stupid job! (I have been working for over twenty years so I'm not young and unrealistic that work sucks sometimes.)
Very few positions in my field exist and only open up every few years. Besides, I am with the top employer in my field and am paid considerably more than other places will usually pay. Nothing comparable has opened up in the last 2 years. I have tried to get out by applying for other jobs or lesser positions in my field but my current job title and employer have such cache that I find my interviewers are suspicious of why I would leave. And of course, you are not supposed to complain about your employer when interviewing.
A friend has pointed out that if I quit now with a baby, no one will ever question my motivation for leaving my "glamorous" job. I think she has a point. My husband says we can get by on his pay and he would rather have me taking care of our kid. Our kid has a developmental disability and sometimes I wonder if I should be at home anyway. I am bringing my misery home and not being the best mom i can be. I'm just scared to quit. What would you do?