Your Stress is Stressing Me Out
March 11, 2013 6:43 PM Subscribe
How do I effectively communicate to my husband that I'm afraid that his job stress is spilling over into our family life and negatively affecting his relationship with our kids?
posted by anonymous to human relations (14 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
My husband took a very demanding and challenging job last May. It required us to move to a new state and away from family. His position is much different than his prior job, with interaction with competing demands from the community, HQ and his bosses. There is never a dull moment (things literally exploding is a possibility).
He took the position because he felt stultified in his prior position and was in danger of being stuck in a dead end career path if he didn't leave. I fully supported his move.
The problem is that he has a lot of stress that comes with his job and I think it is beginning to negatively impact his relationships with our 3 year old and to a lesser extent the little one we had in November. He's very short with the 3 year old (who can be trying - I understand) and can't handle more than a few minutes of our new baby crying before crying uncle himself. This has resulted in the care of our baby falling almost solely on my hands and the care of our son in his.
How can I express my concerns to him without sounding like I'm nagging? I don't want to add to his stress but I also want to address the problem that his stress is creating. Throw away email: email@example.com.