Should my sister's boyfriend be paying rent to my parents?
February 18, 2013 1:11 PM Subscribe
My parents are now asking my sister's new live-in boyfriend to pay rent while he lives in her house, which they co-own and are paying the mortgage on. Is this right?
posted by Auden to work & money (53 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
My middle-aged sister has a new boyfriend that she's been seeing since last summer.
After about 3 or 4 months of dating, he moved in with her and her young autistic son.
She doesn't work, and she relies on my parents for financial support for herself and her son. A few years ago they bought her house for her - the title is in both my sister's and my mother's name, but the mortgage is being paid off
by my folks. When it's paid off, it will be entirely in my sister's name (at least I think this is the deal).
The boyfriend works but doesn't earn much (this may change later in the year), and has previous marriages and a previous child that he pays child support on. I've met him
and he seems very nice and very straightforward, a decent guy, a good change from her ex. My parents like him, and he is apparently very good with my autistic nephew.
Financially, however (as I understand it), he seems to be paying little more than his share of the food bill, and my parents would like him to pay rent, either to my sister or (because they really don't
trust my sister on these kinds of financial things after some bad history) to them, something like 2/3 of what a studio apartment would go for in her area. It's a very nice, large house, nicely furnished, repainted, all new appliances, etc, and my parents and I have done extensive work on the house and yard since the purchase. It's nice.
My sister asked me to talk to my mom about this new rent requirement, which she believes that the boyfriend would not want to pay, and apparently the boyfriend feels that my parents dislike him and that they treat my sister like a child. And my sister feels that my mom is very controlling; which is true, she can be.
I suppose my sister is afraid that this will drive him away and this is one of her last chances at a good relationship esp. with an autistic son.
At first I felt that requiring him to pay rent was wrong, but after talking to friends I've had a change of heart, and am now uncertain.
I'd really like people's opinions on the situation.