Stick it out or move on from this unequal relationship?
February 12, 2013 7:05 AM Subscribe
I'm in a relationship with wonderful woman (4 months) who I am falling for but should I break it off now because it's unequal?
posted by anonymous to human relations (16 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I've been in a relationship for 4 months with a great, smart, gorgeous woman who has recently undergone some major life changes including breaking up with her ex and starting a new job (all in the last year).
Pros: She's smart, sexy, witty, and we're on the same page about most all life goals, ambitions and values.
The cons: I initiate almost all of our activities including sex and she has yet to really bring me into her life/friends or return overtures of affection (like' I miss you, etc)
Question: I realize she needs support, time, understanding etc as she navigates this new part of her life, but can't help but think she keeping me around more because I'm convenient than she's really into me. Should I trust my gut on this one and end it or stick it out because she'll be worth the effort more long term?
I'm sort of at the place in life where I want a serious relationship soon. How much waiting time is too much in this scenario? Is this a red flag?