Why is anger the most problematic emotion?
February 1, 2013 1:55 AM Subscribe
My theory is that, of all the emotions, people find anger the hardest to deal with. I know people don't like strong emotions in general, but they seem to be worse at coping with others' anger than in the case of other strong emotions. Why is that?
posted by EatMyHat to human relations (51 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
Last time I got angry people around me were weak, avoidant and scared, or worse, told me it was wrong and rude to be angry. Some people said they never get angry, with the implication that no one else should either. Most people who said anything made me feel worse. Only one (out of a group of 6) managed to deal with the issue well (though she did a very good job).
My question is: why do people (even those with normally good emotional intelligence) find it so hard to respond effectively when someone is angry? Why is anger treated differently from other strong emotions?
PLEASE don't tell me how to manage my anger, or tell me I should not be angry because it is socially unacceptable. I know that already. I'm looking for responses that will help me understand other people's responses to anger.