How Can Living in a Multiracial Household Affect an Adopted Child
January 30, 2013 6:27 PM Subscribe
I am of one race/ethnicity; my partner is of another. No kids. How will adopting a child from a third background impact him/her?
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I am of one race/ethnicity; my partner is of another race; we currently have no kids, but would like to adopt a child. Domestic adoption has a 10-year wait in our region, and so we are considering international adoption (should we find an agency whom we feel is ethically caring for the children under its watch).
In our part of the world, the government agency responsible for international adoption limits it to a handful of countries - most of them are Asian (i.e. South Korea, China, Thailand) or African (Cameroon, Burkina Faso).
Neither of us are of Asian or African origin. If we adopt an Asian or African child, will having parents of completely different ethnicities to him/her but also to each other be too much for him/her to handle at such a fragile time in his/her life?
What about when he/she's older - and starts to notice how other parents look like their kids, (or at least, each other) - in our case, there'll be no resemblance whatsoever!
Obviously there are plenty of families that adopt children of other races, but is it possible that there can be too many races under one roof?
We are ready to love our child as our flesh and blood, no matter where he or she is from, and we couldn't care less about what others think - our concern is solely about the child: having to adapt to a new life abroad with new parents in a new culture is hard enough.