Help Me Feed the Need to Spread My Seed
December 12, 2012 9:02 PM Subscribe
After reading a number of articles such as this
on Metafilter, I realized that I might want to have kids soon, before it's too late. I have a biological clock and that instinct is telling me I ought to propagate before my sperm becomes useless. However, I have no immediate desire to parent anyone. My instincts are only concerned with reproduction, not any of the details.
My thought is that I could become a sperm donor. I have no emotional need to ever meet
my kids (though I have nothing against it either) - it would be enough to know that they're out there somewhere. However, I am confused by some of the potential ramifications. (Snowflake details inside.)
posted by wolfdreams01 to law & government (13 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
1) First of all, what would happen if the parents of my child died or were unfit? Would legal guardianship default to me, in the absence of any immediate family? In the short term, I don't see how that would be acceptable. My parents are tough-love Darwinian types, and I will get zero support from them if I do something stupid or weak, which is absolutely what this would be perceived as. To give you an idea of how tough they are, when I was unemployed a long time ago and worried about becoming homeless, I asked if I could crash in the guest house for a while. They told me to join the military instead. So yeah, in the short term, I absolutely can't risk any parental liability falling on me. I've put a lot of effort to live up to my parent's image of a great son and I don't want to throw it all away due to something like this.
2) At the same time, I must face reality and acknowledge that eventually my parents will pass away. When this happens, I will probably come into an inheritance. I am an only child and assuming that I don't have a family of my own at the time, I would like to have the opportunity to leave something to my offspring in my will. Is this something that would be possible, or are sperm donors prohibited from learning any information about their potential children?
3) Another point to consider is that the inheritance may be fairly large - certainly enough to attract con-artist types. Assume that I do this, and someday some person of the appropriate age knocks on my door and says "Hey, you're my dad." Would there be any way to verify with the clinic's records that this person is indeed my son without asking for a blood-test (and thus immediately alienating him)?
I recognize that you are not my lawyer, but even a lawyer's advice would become outdated since laws change over time. I'm looking more for big picture recommendations on whether this idea might or might not be feasible, as well as potential complications that I have not considered.