Career vs. Comfort
December 2, 2012 8:52 AM Subscribe
I work in IT and am 32. I've recently left my job of 11 years for a 10K pay increase and to try to advance my career. I really didn't want to do it because I was comfortable and happy where I was in the old job. I'm an ISTJ (introvert) and my nature is to not make big changes in my life. I worry about not having a clear path in my life. Ive been at the new job for 2 months now and It's been up and down but i'm definitely not as happy as I was at the old job.
posted by qxmbati to Work & Money (20 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
It feels so much slower there and I get anxious a lot. The environment is almost depressing sometimes. I keep thinking about going back to my former employer and I actually might have the opportunity to do so since I'm cool with my boss there and they haven't back-filled my position yet.
I know that If I go back, I'm going to get comfortable again and probably not look for any more jobs for a while. I was only making 50k at the old job and they don't give raises very often. But I was very comfortable and had a lot of freedom there. The environment was great and I became best friends with a few of the guys in my office there. I am very well known there and loved - they are honestly more of a family to me than my own family at home.
Now I'm at a Fork in the road. Do I keep going with this new job, hope that it gets better, or it leads to an even better job somewhere else? This means I'm going to try and build my career and make more money - something i've never really thought about until now.
Or do I go back and make my old salary, easy job, and just be content with what I have in life?
Normally I would just go with the safe option - be content in life with the old, easy going job but a bunch of my friends keep telling me that I'm smarter than this and I have what it takes to advance in the IT field. Sometimes I feel like that's the kick in the behind that I need to get myself to go further. But other times I just want to be safe and routine.
I think I want to get married at some point and have a small family and maybe a house. I'm not sure how soon, but its been something that is more prevalent in my mind lately. If that is the case then I think i'd probably need to go for more money/career in order to support them. But i'm really not sure WHEN or IF that is going to happen. So I just feel like sticking to my routine until its ready to happen.
I don't know what to do. I'm running out of time and I'm scared that I made the wrong choice and have compromised my happiness for some more money/opportunity...