How to properly cope with the discrimination and bullying in many of my classes?
November 22, 2012 3:51 PM Subscribe
Conflicted upon how to deal with bullying and discrimination (of various kinds) I am experiencing in my classes this semester.
posted by pixienat to human relations (17 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I am a female science major, and all of my classes are predominately male.
Besides being female, I also have several learning disabilities as well as mental health issues that I take medication for, and have accommodation access through my school's disability student programme. In a nutshell I have experienced sexism, ableism as well as being bullied by male classmates in almost all of my classes.
Some examples of my experiences this semester (I ended up dropping a class because it was incredibly awful):
1) I was bullied, ignored by my male teacher as well as excluded by my male peers from study groups, because I talked in class. Out of 60 students, there were about 4-5 women including me, I was the only one who talked, I should rephrase that as really "saying anything".
(I don't feel a need to discuss the victim blaming responses I've had with male students who sat in this class for fun and talked the entire duration of class to another classmate..)
-A friend told me they advocated for me to be sedated.
-They called me "dragon-lady" because I am part Asian...
2)In my calculus class I've had issues with a male student who refuses to accommodate or acknowledge my need for accommodations for my learning disabilities.
He refused to allow me to sit in his "unassigned seat", he told me "he'd race everyday for that seat" (basically dismissed my needs). When I told him I am being distracted in this class the other day,and it's impairing my ability to learn in the class he rebutted:
"What learning disabilities? Anxiety? Take a Xanax!"
I'm also really afraid that my learning disabilities will not allow me to be able to seek accommodation in my Calculus class and my grade will be severely jeopardized.
I ran out of medication for my learning disabilities (which my parents in another part of the state mail me) right in the middle of my take-home exam. In order for me to function in school and stay on task, I need to take this medication. Down to the wire, I had to take time out from the assigned time to take the take-home exam (sunday morning to tuesday morning) to run around town to get to a Fedex shipping store to pick up my medication.
3) A male student out of anger towards me will exclude me from any class discussion, will not acknowledge my existence, will make generalized statements towards Japan RIGHT around me (because I am part Japanese), and when I ask him to stop he refuses to. (Literally says no). When I try and defend myself, another classmate will argue back at me informing me "I am wrong because of this guy's young age". This "young guy" also made rude comments about anything I said, even to myself on my birthday, which he was aware of because I announced it in class earlier that day.
I'm not sure if anyone has ever experienced a/these similar scenario(s), but I'm curious about anyone's way of dealing with problems like this, and if the results brought you some satisfaction?
(I've also talked to two teachers about the sexism issue)