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November 20, 2012 9:06 PM Subscribe
How do people learn to do things alone? Is it normal to be anxious about going places and doing things on your own?
posted by Papagayo to Human Relations (29 answers total) 54 users marked this as a favorite
Doing things (pretty much anything) alone gives me a lot of anxiety. Somewhere along the line I seem to have developed a complex about being stared at or judged that makes it difficult to do a lot of things on my own. I've traveled quite a bit by myself so it clearly hasn't been entirely disabling, but it has made even things like sitting at a coffeeshop alone (which I've never been able to do) or taking bus rides to places unnecessarily challenging. I'm right in between an introvert and an extrovert, so it's not even that I don't like other people or am particularly bad at social interaction, but I strongly prefer to go places with at least one person I know and will generally sit at home freaking out about theoretical judgement from others for a frustratingly long time rather than just go out and deal with it. Is this at least on the spectrum of normal? How are some people able to just go out and sit in places or attend events by themselves without feeling weird and how do I get myself to be like that?
(sorry if there's a similar question I've missed, it's late and my brain is finals-fried!)