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November 14, 2012 9:47 AM Subscribe
How did you accept the fact that giving birth would totally change everything you know?
posted by sockorama to human relations (54 answers total) 40 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in my 30s and have never been pregnant, but want to have a family when my partner and I are ready - meaning for us, married and stable (financially and emotionally).
However, what I'm currently trying to wrap my head around is the actual birth process and aftermath, and I'm really interested to hear about how your viewpoints may have changed when making the decision to have a family.
I'm having difficulty understanding the seeming imbalance in workload - women seem to really take the majority of what seems to be a sacrifice to everything to give birth - their careers, their identify, their bodies...all of it.
For example, take a c-section. How did you go into pregnancy knowing that you either will plan to or have the risk of receiving a major, major surgery that you will be fully awake for, that you will spend months recovering from? How did you come to terms that your body would never be the same (vaginal or c-section)? How did you come to terms that your career may be at risk of taking a hit? How did you come to terms that your friendships may scatter, you may have to sideline some of your hobbies for a long time (if not, ever), your relationship with your husband would change, and basically become a totally different person in the realm of only 9 months?
Obviously, it's totally impossible to plan for any of these things, but how did you accept all of this? Was it all worth it?