Should I leave him?
November 7, 2012 1:15 PM Subscribe
Should I leave him? I've been dating someone for five months. In the beginning, he asked that we take it slow; he'd been out of a very long relationship for about a year and a half. I said I'd be happy to take it slow if he was open to the possibility of a committed relationship eventually.
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We're happy together; we see each other several times a week, share many interests, make each other laugh, support each other through tough times at work, and have great conversations and great sex. Neither of us is dating anyone else. He's kind, funny, smart, and charming. He treats me with consideration and respect. But my feelings are far ahead of his; I want to know that things are going somewhere. I'm 33, he's 34.
In my previous relationships, I've almost always been the person on the other side—the one who's been hesitant to commit. There have been times I've stayed in a relationship even though I knew it wasn't something I wanted long-term. I felt indecisive and let things drag on. I've wondered if he's in the same position. I've asked him to tell me if he ever feels that things definitely aren't going to last. I think he's telling the truth when he says he doesn't know what he really wants.
Since I want a committed relationship, is it time to leave? Everything else is so good between us. I know he's gone through a difficult period adjusting from his breakup, but I wonder what the chances are that things will change.