Learning to know myself, and grow myself.
November 4, 2012 5:52 PM Subscribe
How do I learn to trust (and know) myself?
posted by freeform to human relations (11 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
I seem to have a lot of difficulty accessing and affirming my "gut feelings" about things. I'm in a pretty unstable place in life right now, and I can't seem to find solid ground. I would love to hear how you all deal with intuition, or lack thereof, pertaining to your thoughts and feelings.
It doesn't help that I was a pretty fearful and anxious person growing up, and my parents (one in particular) were overinvolved, domineering, and thought they knew what was best for me. This culminated in a lot of fighting during my teens, but even as I argued with my parents over just about everything, I was still convinced that they were right about stuff. As I grew up and struggled with depression, anxiety, and guilt, I came to overdepend on my parents' advice in many areas. This has been a longstanding habit that I'm only finally starting to break (I'm 26), but I see the same interactions and overdependencies/enabling playing out between my parents and younger sibling, and I get that it's bad.
I think that I'm just starting to "know" myself now, but I still don't, really. And I'm afraid I never will.
Also, I'm in therapy right now. My therapist has confirmed that I need to try and separate my own internal voice from that of my family, and I'm just getting started.