If this doesn't work, can I trade her in for a kid who sleeps through the night? *sigh*
October 22, 2012 9:45 AM Subscribe
Please help me keep our 4.5 year old insomniac daughter from crawling into her parents bed in the middle of the night before I lose what's left of my mind from sleep fatigue.
posted by zarq to human relations (52 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
My daughter comes into our room nearly every night at some time between 1 and 5 in the morning. We don't want her there.
If we are awake enough to notice her, we'll walk her back to bed while she whines, cries and kicks up a huge fuss. Invariably, this wakes her twin brother, with whom she shares a room. She then waits until we're asleep and tries to sneak back in. It's driving us nuts.
We've tried taking toys away, threats, scowls, yelling, bribes of stickers when she's stayed in her bed, etc. Nothing has worked. She may stay in her bed for a night or two and promise us she won't come into ours, but that doesn't last. We've spoken to her to try and find out if there's something she doesn't like about her own bed or room, but she seems happy with it. Same with pre-K. She seems happy otherwise.
My wife is convinced she's being clingy, it's a phase and will pass. My daughter has always been pretty attached to me, but that seems to have intensified the last few months.
She goes to sleep every night between 7:30 and 8, and falls asleep by 8:15-8:45. But at some point she apparently wakes up and comes to us.
I could really use some constructive advice -- especially if you're a parent who have been through this and solved it successfully.
Here's what we won't do:
* Give up and just let her sleep with us. Most of the time, she kicks and pushes in a constant attempt to claim space and make herself comfortable. This keeps us up (and is incidentally killing my back.) Plus her brother would move in too and the bed ain't big enough for all of us to sleep comfortably.
* Locking them in their room, or locking our door. We're afraid of being unable to get in or out in an emergency.
* Spanking / Hitting her. (We don't do that.)
Many thanks in advance!