Are ACOA meetings worthwhile?
October 7, 2012 6:29 PM Subscribe
I'm thinking of attending an Adult Children of Alcoholics meeting, but I don't really know if it's worthwhile. I'd love opinions from those with experience.
posted by windykites to Grab Bag (11 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I guess my problem is that I don't see any value in sitting around wallowing in misery, and that's my impression of what these meetings must be like. I don't see the point in talking about my stupid feelings with a bunch of people as fucked-up as me. I don't even talk much about my feelings in therapy.
My therapist tried to get me to go to similar group sessions that he organized, and I just found it obnoxious and stupid. I don't see how it's helpful for me to hang out with a bunch of people who have the problems I'm trying to get away from and whine about problems instead of figuring out solutions. Maybe this was just a bad group, though.
I came across some literature for ACoA by accident, and it really seemed to speak to my condition. But, some things worried me, like that you're supposed to go six times before deciding if you like it, and that they can't explain how or why it helps. That sounds like a recipe for dependence to me, not a way to get better. I would love thoughts, opinions or experiences. And if my impressions are wrong, I would love to know it.