Guilt by association with the pickup artist community?
September 5, 2012 10:50 PM Subscribe
I have been offered a freelance writing gig and it seems pretty awesome, but the company publishing it is run by a guy who is affiliated with the "pickup artist" community. This makes me uncomfortable. Am I nuts for considering not taking it because of this?
posted by ponytime to human relations (18 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I guess I should explain I'm a woman, I already have a job that pays the bills, and I write in an area where there are few female writers. The person in question running this company does not write or publish PUA stuff, but he speaks at their conventions.
The deal seemed really awesome and a lot of people got excited for me. But this whole pickup artist thing makes me feel really gross. Some people tell me "they aren't all bad," but I am familiar with them though real life and through the internet and I largely find the whole thing disgusting and misogynistic. I've occasionally snarked at them on reddit, but this person hiring me probably does not know about it.
When I think about writing my stuff and getting it to a greater audience and paying off my student loan (not big, but I've been paying it slowly) with it...that seems so cool. But when I spend my late nights googling about some of these PUA conventions and forums, especially some of these writings by people who also speak in the same lineups( who talk about modern women being sluts, feminism being poisonous, misogyny not existing etc.), I feel disgusted and like I want to reject the whole thing. Am I being totally difficult and crazy? One part of me is "It's not him who is saying this stuff", the other is "why would anyone who is actually a good person associate with these people?"