the art of small talk
September 5, 2012 12:13 PM Subscribe
I’m not naturally social, and I’m looking for tricks on speeding up my banter with aquaintances and strangers.
posted by timsneezed to Human Relations (21 answers total) 51 users marked this as a favorite
After spending most of my life avoiding strangers I’m determined to master the art of small talk to the best of my ability. I have a job with a lot of customer facing time, and I want to make the most of it.
So far I’m struggling against 29 years of semi isolation. I have ADD and I tend to process social information slowly. I struggle to come up with rapid fire responses. Of course this isn’t a problem when I know somebody well. It's really just a matter of time. I always think of the right thing to say later, but I'm not sure how helpful preparing responses in advance would be since a lot of them are situational comments.
I also get easily drained from socializing with strangers, and I’m looking for ways to lengthen my “on” time.
So far I’ve made lots of progress. I’d say I’m about halfway there, far better than I was even six months ago. But I feel like I’ve plateaued a bit and could use some pointers on getting all the way.
Bonus points on any hacks to make people warm up. An example would be that I”ve noticed even the gruffest person will soften when you ask about their kids.