Asking someone behind a food service register out for coffee?
October 2, 2013 10:30 PM Subscribe
There is this woman/lady/girl/gal who's often behind the register at a Chipotle I'm at 2-3 times per week after work.
posted by zeek321 to human relations (40 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Yes, she's friendly, upbeat, and super nice to everyone. But, in our thirty seconds of banter while I pay, we always reference past thirty seconds of banter. And today she asked how my week has been so far. After I replied, she said something in a low, uncharacteristic tone of voice about having no life. And I just couldn't parse it, when usually our banter is crystal clear. So I said, "Say again?" And she repeated the exact same thing, and I still couldn't parse it. I had to reply with something generic. And then we exchanged a couple more sentences of easy to understand, banter-referencing-past-banter and genuine smiles.
Then, I walked over to the utensils and stuff and puttered around for like a minute, and then I turned back to the register rather abruptly (and intentionally), and she was watching me, and we locked eyes, and she had an unreadable expression on her face. I tried for a friendly smile and headed out.
1. Is she just being friendly? Or is she kind of noncommittally curious and just enjoying the banter for now or forever? Or does she definitely want to have coffee? (Any insight on what's going through her head?)
2. Assuming for the moment that she wants to have coffee or hang out, is there a smooth way to have one of us give the other contact information? I want to be sensitive to a) not embarrassing her in front of coworkers, to b) not getting her in trouble, and to c) the fact that she's a captive audience and her job is to be friendly.
Like, could I say to her, "If you say, 'Let's get coffee,' I will say, 'Yes.'"? I could pull it off. But then I'm worried about a) through c).
It's loud enough and there's enough space between coworkers at the usual time I'm there that I don't think anyone can really hear us. But someone would probably notice if we exchanged something besides money and/or she put something in her pocket? I don't want to overthink the logistics, but I again want to be sensitive about a) through c).
What to do? Or just wait and let things develop or not?