A cunning plan
September 4, 2012 4:46 PM Subscribe
I don't know what I want to be when I grow up. Problem is, I just turned 45. Help me work out what to do next.
posted by b33j to grab bag (14 answers total) 16 users marked this as a favorite
I'm single (about 18 months now, after 20 year marriage) but with a LD'R' [not serious] in another state, empty nester (kids are 20 & 21 and living away from me), no parents, with a degree in Multimedia Studies. I have about $100,000 in savings. I live in rental accommodation on the Gold Coast, Queensland. I work freelance as a research assistant for academics, and as a document designer/formatter for mining consulting company. I have recently recovered from a nasty bout of depression/anxiety and been diagnosed with ADD. I have one dependent, a 10 year old indoor cat (called Gordon). My current and only goals are: lose 35 kilograms, learn to drive (a car).
But, I want a plan. Maybe a career plan? Maybe a travel plan? I could do anything, if I knew what it was I wanted. I could study a Graduate Diploma in Research Studies next year where I work with my academics, which would lead into a PhD (but I fell into working with academics in this field, and acquired a great mentor who kept me coming back- it wasn't something I actively sought). I could move interstate. I could travel the world, and leave Gordon with the ex until I came back. I could study project management. I could do more work with multimedia. I could go live on a commune and grow my own vegetables.
How do I know what I want to do?
[If this sounds unbelievable, I spent most of my life first doing what my mother wanted, and then supporting my partner in his career and life choices while raising the kids. I don't know what I want.]
So, how do I find out what I want to do next?