Very nervous about my upcoming move!
August 26, 2012 9:41 AM Subscribe
Is it normal to be petrified about a move? Wondering if what I am feeling is normal fears/doubts or a sign that I am making a mistake?
posted by mdn31 to human relations (13 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I am in my mid-30's and have only lived in one place my entire life. I have, however, traveled a lot internationally and also to some parts of the US. I have always longed to try living elsewhere and am attracted to bigger cities. I live in a small midwest town with limited diversity which has made it somewhat difficult for me as an African American woman.
I have a small, perhaps what many would consider, dysfunctional, family. We do not regularly get together or see each other...funerals, weddings, is about it. I am however close to my mom, and speak to her daily. She is my small support system as much as she is able to be. She is in her mid-60's and I am not sure how soon she will need more support herself and I want to be a part of that. My siblings all still live in the home city and can be of some support so she is not completely isolated.
Recently I saw a job in my "live here bucket list" city, and applied. The application process took more than 5 months and did not look promising, but at the very last minute they offered me the job. I am a teacher and have worked in the same district for 13 years, however, there is some uncertainty due to new legislation for public employees in WI, that could change my income in the coming years. With that said, the place offering me the job is a pretty good offer and seems like a stable place. However, although I was so excited to move, I think all along I never expected it to happen and now it is all coming together very fast. I am worried about many things...I still have a house in home state, and would have to try to sell it - I am not sure how long that will take. I am worried I could move and lose my new job in a year. I am worried if I needed to come back some doors would be closed and I would end up taking a huge salary cut. I am worried about being completely alone in a new city. I am worried about my mom. She came to my house yesterday and saw everything in boxes and cried...my dad died 3 months ago (in the middle of this process), and I think it is all too much for her. With that said, I am also worried I will always regret if I do not give this a shot...or, if I wait a year, will it really be any easier, or will similar opportunities exist. I have had a knot in my stomach for the last week and barely eat. I can't sleep well either...I have a small window of time in which to back out, and have thought many times about doing it...thoughts, insights, similar experiences? Have you moved and regretted it? Have you moved and it worked out?