How to discuss breast augmentation with my girlfriend?
August 13, 2012 7:17 AM Subscribe
How do I discuss breast augmentation with my girlfriend when she brings it up to me?
From time to time, generally while we're being intimate and I'm somehow focusing on her breasts, my girlfriend will ask me "If I want her to get them bigger for me". I do find well-executed breast implants to be very attractive and so, if my girlfriend decided to go through with augmentation, would be quite happy - but then, I'm quite happy now, too.
I am extremely wary about ever expressing enthusiasm for the idea of augmentation to her, as I don't want to contribute to any sense of dysmorphia she may be experiencing, and I am also apprehensive about how she always phrases it as being "for me". She has previously expressed some dissatisfaction with her breasts, which have shrunk after a course of medication, and certainly augmentation is one method to address that, but I never never never want her to feel that she is somehow inadequately attractive to me. As it is, whenever she asks I respond with something like, "Your body is amazing, everything about it makes me so happy". Basically, reassurance without expressing a strong opinion either way.
I don't want my opinion to inform her decision, but I feel that she's putting it on me: that either she's asking for my permission or wanting the idea shot down, and I don't know which. I would guess that from her persistence in asking that she's asking for permission, but I still don't feel like it's really my role to "grant" it. For context, we've been dating about a year, and are soon to move in together.