How to discuss breast augmentation with my girlfriend?
August 13, 2012 7:17 AM Subscribe
How do I discuss breast augmentation with my girlfriend when she brings it up to me?
posted by anonymous to human relations (44 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
From time to time, generally while we're being intimate and I'm somehow focusing on her breasts, my girlfriend will ask me "If I want her to get them bigger for me". I do find well-executed breast implants to be very attractive and so, if my girlfriend decided to go through with augmentation, would be quite happy - but then, I'm quite happy now, too.
I am extremely wary about ever expressing enthusiasm for the idea of augmentation to her, as I don't want to contribute to any sense of dysmorphia she may be experiencing, and I am also apprehensive about how she always phrases it as being "for me". She has previously expressed some dissatisfaction with her breasts, which have shrunk after a course of medication, and certainly augmentation is one method to address that, but I never never never want her to feel that she is somehow inadequately attractive to me. As it is, whenever she asks I respond with something like, "Your body is amazing, everything about it makes me so happy". Basically, reassurance without expressing a strong opinion either way.
I don't want my opinion to inform her decision, but I feel that she's putting it on me: that either she's asking for my permission or wanting the idea shot down, and I don't know which. I would guess that from her persistence in asking that she's asking for permission, but I still don't feel like it's really my role to "grant" it. For context, we've been dating about a year, and are soon to move in together.