Kind of a two-part question: 1) Looking for affordable, secure, climate controlled storage units north of Kansas City, and 2) dealing with the illogical sense of feeling abandoned by my parents as they talk about being unable to store my stuff in the future. (Sorry, a bit long inside)
posted by DisreputableDog to human relations (20 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I’m in the military; anything I have in my bags, I use almost every day. This includes my very small amount of casual clothing, jewelry, computer, camera, hard drive, Kindle, and a few other “I would seriously just buy this again if I left it behind” items, besides the separate bag of uniform items I have to lug around. I don’t even take shampoo, toothpaste, clothing hangers, or such items with me as I tend to just buy them at the military store when I get there.
I don’t have the ability to carry any keepsakes with me. Postcards, china and glass figurines in a curio cabinet gifted to me when I was a child, a few clothing and jewelry items, art I’ve picked up on our family vacations, and quite a few books are the kinds of things I leave at my parent’s house or drop off if I’ve picked up a souvenir in my travels.
But now my parents are talking about downsizing to a condo sometime within the next 3 to 5 years and they’ve noted they won’t have the space to store my stuff.
And I’m kind of….ticked off, as well as feeling abandoned and helpless. It would be different if I had a normal job, an apartment, even a spouse to keep house for me, but I have none of these things. Once they downsize, I’ll be living wherever the government sends me OR sleeping on the couch of a family member or friend when I visit.
What’s more, once I purchase a storage unit, I’m tied to visiting the unit to drop off or pick anything up, no matter where my parents move to. And they’re the only reason I really visit this immediate area, so when they also half tease each other about moving to another state or another country, one of my main thoughts is “what the fuck am I supposed to do then? Use leave just to visit my storage unit? And what happens if the storage unit is in threat of shutting down for some reason, or floods, or some other ridiculous who-the-hell-knows thing? I won’t have anyone in the area to help me deal with it.”
It’s also somewhat frustrating when I know my cousins, who are also in various military branches, don’t have to deal with this sort of thing PLUS my aunts and uncles have been storing things like TVs, major furniture, closet(s) full of clothes, etc for them for years. So I feel ridiculous for saying so but sort of want to bitch that it’s kind of unfair, considering the pretty minor amount of stuff I’m asking my parents to keep for me. They can even sell off the curio cabinet if they want – I’m pretty decent at tossing large, unwieldy keepsake items…but they don’t want to store ANYTHING of mine.
On a side note, I guess the only advantage I can see for storing my things in another place would be keeping them away from my somewhat impulsive mother, who might randomly decide to put such items as childhood books or precious (not Wal*mart) jewelry in a yard sale without consulting me (I’ve been moving some of these books of the “definitely mine” variety to my room over the past few days just in case) and who initiated wanting to clean out _my stuff_ from the closet about a year back when she wanted a family member to stay in what was previously my room (only 1 ½ years after I left). I note that I’ve also been cleaning out a ton of stuff from my room so they won’t have to deal with it in the future. I can’t get across how much I’m trying to be a polite, unassuming, non-resident of their house.
I understand that it’s their home, their lives, their space. At the same time, it seems like holding onto a box of stuff for your kid who doesn’t have the ability to keep any sort of home shouldn’t be such a big deal. Even my brother still has books and things here…but he has an apartment in the area where he attends college a few hours away, so picking up some items before my parents dump, sell, and flee isn’t a big deal.
So I’m looking for recommendations on some decently priced, climate controlled, safe & secure storage units in this area (north of Kansas City, in the Platte County area)….as well as figuring out how to deal with these feelings of abandonment, mild anger, frustration, etc. Sorry if this seems like a long, silly tale of whining and woe, but I hope I’m getting my point across here in that I understand their position, however painful it might be to me at this time, and want to deal with my illogical responses to it.