Where does young hipster Mr. Rogers hang out?
July 20, 2012 10:25 AM Subscribe
I don't know where to meet people who are smart but not arrogant about it, or smart and also socially functional.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (24 answers total) 28 users marked this as a favorite
Man, in school I didn't have this problem.
I am a mid-20s woman in NYC. And I have a problem wherein I keep meeting people who fall into one of the following two categories:
They are smart, nice enough, but so socially awkward that I do not have any interest whatsoever in becoming better friends with them or dating them. This is not me hating on nerds, I consider myself a nerd, but good gravy- any meetup that explicitly calls itself 'nerdy' just seems to turn into an orgy of uncomfortable weird internet-based small talk.
Or- and this is a more insidious problem- they are smart, social, normal, cool, interesting... and completely dismissive of people dumber, poorer, or less privileged than they are. I have to say I am constantly surprised by this, because all of my friends in school were extremely open-minded people who went out of their way to understand stuff like the structural causes of racism and poverty, etc. But I just keep meeting people who ought to fucking know better but talk shit about black people or whatever, and act like I'm being naive when I try to counter them. It is infuriating.
So what I want to know is- where can I find people who are
2. interested in social justice but NOT the type of die-hard anarchist who is more enamored with their self-image as a revolutionary than with actual issues, and
3. able to carry on a conversation without mumbling and talking about memes?
So far one idea I have is a UU church, though I am not at all religious. Any other ideas?