What was time apart from your significant other like for you?
July 7, 2012 6:58 PM Subscribe
Help me make a decision: What was your experience living abroad without your partner for a year or more?
posted by wintersweet to human relations (38 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
I'm looking into jobs that would involve my working abroad for 1 or 2 years (the best jobs are 2 years). The jobs would fulfill various personal and professional goals that I don't think I could fulfill otherwise, would improve my chances for better jobs when I got back, and so on. Unfortunately, it's impossible for my husband to come with me because of the nature of his job and other things. (This is non-negotiable.)
Anyway, he's okay with my going, but we're basically best friends and partners who spend most of our free time together. We really enjoy being around each other, not to mention physical contact and so on. We've never really been the "you do your thing in one room, I'll do mine in another" couple, by mutual impulse.
We're both keeping in mind Skype, watching movies online together, and other good ideas that have been listed on AskMeFi for a sense of closeness. What I'd like to hear about is how things actually went for you if you did this.
So, did you and your (established) partner live in separate countries for a year or more? How did it go? How did you feel about it and the decision afterwards?
Your experiences would be useful data that would help me clearly think about my problem of whether or not to pursue my goal of working abroad. Thanks!
(I hope this isn't considered chatfilterish. It was the sort of thing that I thought might be on be the green, and that I think might be useful for other people. Basically, I'm trying to put into practice advice from various researchers on decision-making by asking people about their experiences.)