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July 2, 2012 7:29 AM Subscribe
My wife unfriended me on Facebook - what's the appropriate/healthy response?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (46 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Without warning, my wife unfriended me on Facebook. She said it was because I "never" react to posts she occasionally makes to my wall and because I "hardly ever" post pictures of our kids. (Usually my internal reactions to her posts to my wall are publicly innappropriate/ off-color humor or very
personal - so i usually don't respond. Also, I take/ send pictures of our kids to her, which she posts as her own.)
We have been married about 20 years - the past few have been rough, but we have more or less gotten through it. I feel like I've made/ make big efforts to re-connect/ connect. But I see the un-friending as a big "dismissal" / shit-test/ immature/ somewhat humiliating. Also, I am absolutely involved with our family so the idea that i'm not, because of my facebook patterns, is a joke.
I told her in a straight/unperturbed way that it hurt my feelings, and wasn't sure what she was trying to accomplish. She thought it was kind of funny and that "it's just facebook" - which is TRUE, --but also, -NOT TRUE. She is on it a lot and it is an extension of our individual & combined social lives to be sure. The conversation ended there and I didn't breathe more life into the matter later on (bring it back up).
She is used to seeing family pics from her mom-friends. I am extremely confident she is not trying to hide anything. (she leaves her page up on our home computer all the time) and now, to post pictures of our kids would seem to be pandering.
so..... what is the appropriate/healthy response?