A Queer Girl's Guide to NYC
June 29, 2012 9:15 AM Subscribe
I'm a woman in her mid-twenties who is coming to realize that she might like other women in the romantic sense. I'm in NYC. How/where can I meet and date other women and get to know NYC's queer scene?
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A bit about me: I'm bookish, nerdy, and incredibly socially awkward. I like reading, watching films and TV, good music, and beer. I'm not into sports.
I think I should start off by mentioning that I'm already on OKCupid, and that my profile clearly says I'm bi, even though I don't like that label for a variety of reasons. I have struck up a few conversations there with people, but I have yet to go on anything that can be safely termed a "date."
One of the things I'm looking to do is navigate the NYC dyke bar scene (if there is one; I've heard mixed things) and see if I can meet anyone there. I've never had much success talking to guys in straight bars, though-- would this be much different?
I'm also looking to see if there are any meetups for queer women. I've been to a few of the MetaFilter meetups, and I love how casual they are-- you can just show up and shoot the shit, and if you're a regular attendee you get to know people more. Something like that, but queer-targeted, would be great. I also belong to a couple of book clubs, but I haven't gotten particularly close with anyone there. I'm aware of the Dyke Knitting Circle at Bluestockings, but I've been told they're on break for the summer, and I also don't know how to knit.
In short, I guess I'm looking for places in NYC where someone who is queer and exploring her sexuality would feel comfortable and at home. I'm looking for specific recommendations, as well as places/websites/magazines where I can find this stuff out and any other places/things you guys think I should know about. I'm a total newbie at this, so I'll take any and all suggestions. Thanks in advance!