You are a woman. You frequently go to concerts alone. You like rap and/or metal. What do you wear and what do you do at rap/metal shows to minimize molestation?
I like to go to concerts at least once a month if money allows. Going with another person is almost never an option, and if I waited until I had accompaniment to go to a show, I'd maybe go to two a year. I mention this because it's the primary response my friends and family have for my predicament.
When I go to shows, I am regularly elbowed in the breasts by a guy. It is never a girl. Sometimes it will happen multiple times a night (different guys). It's very painful, and my father is convinced that it is not accidental. The only show I've been to where I had to agree that the elbowing was more than accidental was a Deftones show I attended where it was so packed that I spent the entire set behind a guy who was constantly elbowing me in the chest and would sometimes apologize and sometimes leer at his friend standing next to him after doing it. I spent the night half-bent over a garbage can and there was literally nowhere else to stand without blocking a walk way or having to literally shove someone aside, move to an obstructed view space, or leave the venue entirely.
My admittedly limited experience has taught me that these things are more likely to happen and more frequently at shows where more aggressive music is being played, but whether the men at these shows feel bold enough to make contact or because people are just moving around that much more, simply staying out of the mosh pit or the crush at the head of the stage doesn't prevent this from happening. Getting away from rowdy people or crowds is impossible in a small, packed venue, and I don't think it's fair that I can't stand where ever I please (excepting the mosh pit) without being hurt.
I have just such a show
coming up soon, and while I'm excited to experience the music, I really don't want to have to deal with being elbowed. I dress simply (t-shirt/jeans or skirt to the knee) and while my chest is relatively big, I am a big girl, so it's proportional to everything else. Snapping at every guy who does it doesn't have an appeal to me because I can't prove that it wasn't just an accident. So, how do I protect myself? What can I wear or do to minimize the chances of this happening and still enjoy myself? Do I have to stand with my arms folded at all times? Do I have to accept this as a part of concert-going?
Thank you in advance.