A space in time removed, too soon to tell.
May 7, 2012 1:36 PM Subscribe
Grieving Protocol Question: My community lost a beloved friend in an accident on Friday night. I have some recordings of his voice. How soon can I share these?
posted by anonymous to human relations (12 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Part of my life's work is reinforcing the idea that we neglect sound as a trigger and a repository for memories. Most people take photos, shoot short videos, collect physical souvenirs, but not too many people just record the sounds of the voices closest to them in an everyday context. I've been doing so since I was a teenager, and it's provided me with an invaluable window on the person I used to be, and the people I've been closest to along the way.
We lost a beloved friend in a wreck this weekend. I have what amounts to several hours of this friend conversing casually at a gathering last fall. I would, at some point, like to share these with our mutual friends and loved ones, but in the interests of propriety, I'm not sure when the right time would be.
Everybody is still all over the map emotionally, and a few are still under very close watch. Knowing how intimate the sound of someone's voice can be, and not wanting to push anyone over the edge, I feel it would be indiscreet to just throw these out there without considering the ramifications. I'm inclined to sit on them a while, but I don't know how long.
MeFi, what would you do?