What else can we do?
April 25, 2012 10:27 PM Subscribe
Active domestic violence and emotional abuse in the unit above me... Help us brainstorm, are there other things we can do as neighbors with long ears?
posted by Leucistic Cuttlefish to Human Relations (16 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My neighbors upstairs are a large guy and a small woman around college age, and we live next to the local large University. We moved in this last Fall, and from the sounds of things their relationship in the house was always a rocky one. He was always desperately jealous and controling and nothing she does satisfies it. It has gotten progressively worse from there.
1) My partner and I had growing concerns but felt there was not much we could do, until we were woken up by a sudden scream and loud crash at 4 in the morning. We called 911 immediately, and they responded quickly but left just as fast without the guy. A day or two later they were arguing at 5 in the morning, and this time I could hear them more audibly: most of it centered around her hanging out with a guy, him snooping through her cell phone, and her saying "why would I lie to you?" She also said something along the lines of "you threw me to the ground". We can only assume she was referring to the night we called the cops.
2) A few weeks later, during the day, another fight started and rapidly escalated, as if he were already worked up and waiting to ambush her. There was another sudden loud crash and then the loudest silence I've ever heard. We called 911 immediately and they responded quickly and left just as quickly.
3) Now just today, I heard the guy and a group of three of his friends talking about the girl outside. He said he was "going to spit in that whore's face." Shortly afterwards, she came around, and he yelled outside in the lot out back for everyone to hear, with the line "you fucking whore" repeated many times throughout. This was around 4pm more than 9 hours ago and it is only now burning out, thankfully without audible violence, but we really can't be sure.
Our landlord mentioned that she has plans to move out in a month, but is there anything we can really do as neighbors with long ears other than listen for violence in the meantime? Would it have been appropriate to call the cops in the third instance, and if so how could we have best framed that call? What is a good threshold for calling the cops?
We are in Central Ohio.
We are friendly with our landlords though they are generally absent, and they mentioned something about how if we make three complaints the landlords would be able to begin eviction procedures. Do you guys think this is something that might be worth pursuing?