You make me sick...
April 7, 2012 6:54 PM Subscribe
I'm super attracted to him. My ladybusiness apparently isn't. (AROOGA AROOGA TMI NSFW alert)
posted by dekathelon to Human Relations (70 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
So I've been seeing someone new for about a month now, and from all indications things are great. I mean, yeah, this could still suddenly end next week, but I like him a lot, he seems to like me, we're Facebook friends (dumb arbitrary detail but this has never happened with guys who faded), and I'm more attracted to him than I've been to anyone, ever. Just his being in the room is enough.
The problem is, literally every time we have sex, I get vaginal issues -- weird discharge, weird itching, weird pain, sometimes all of the above. It's starting to interfere with our (otherwise excellent) sex life, because it kind of puts a damper on things when every time he tries something I'm in excruciating pain.
Because someone will ask, I got tested for STDs the first time this happened and came up clean. They tested for everything but HPV and herpes, and I feel like if I had either of those, especially the first time, it'd be obvious. (I was clean before this, too.) He says he's been tested recently, too, and is fine. There's a (fairly decent; we've been over it) chance he's sleeping with other people, but we always use condoms, and I don't think I'm pregnant but I guess that's a remote possibility.
Other details: When they tested me they said I probably have BV, and I've taken the antibiotics they gave me on and off (because work functions involved drinking, and you can't take them with alcohol). That didn't help. The symptoms honestly seem more like yeast, so the other day I took the 1-day OTC stuff, which helped for a few days until it didn't. Because we've had intercourse since then.
Possibly red herring: A few days ago this really, really, really, really weird and scary thing happened where the closest comparison I can think of is my water breaking. It was exactly like that. I have no explanation for this.
I haven't told him any of this except the part where I've been tested and am OK and the part where things hurt. It seems like the sort of thing that would freak someone out if phrased poorly, especially this early on.
Anyway, enough TMI: Is this even a thing? Can you be allergic to a person? Google gives me a bunch of New Age crap.