We're getting a divorce. We live in a rent controlled San Francisco apartment. We both refuse to leave and it's hell. Hivemind, please help me.
I wrote this question
when this process was new. My biggest problem is no longer how to be supportive. Since then, he has come back permanently and has been, shall we say, disruptive:
Explodes in drunken rages every week or so.
Threatened so seriously to kill himself that I called the police (who put him on a psychiatric hold for a couple days). I was not being spiteful, it was because the week before he...
Put a butcher's knife to his chest and tried to force my hands to push it in.
I know the obvious answer is just leave. However, not only did I find, furnish, pay for, and take care of this place for 10 years, I'm very close to the landlord who wants me to stay and my husband to leave. (LL is more of a friend/adoptive father to me.) LL wanted to just change the locks, but obviously I told him not to. My husband can't afford this place, the LL says he won't let him live here with a bunch of roommates, but I don't know how to get him out. We are both on the lease.
I know YANAL or YANML (I am looking for one) but can anyone tell me how this could play out? What happens if a landlord wants only one person on the lease to stay? Is there any creative solution (e.g., I "stop" paying rent, LL evicts "us", I move back in and pay him back.) This can't be an original problem in San Francisco.