Repair a Bipolar-Singed Friendship
March 29, 2012 7:43 AM Subscribe
What is the best way to repair a potential relationship that has been damaged by my manic episode?
posted by anonymous to human relations (45 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I had a scary manic episode not so long ago. It took me by surprise, and I'm being treated now for bipolar disorder and am doing great.
My close friends, most of whom learned about it secondhand or through weird phone calls with me, have all been incredibly supportive. But some relationships have suffered. Notably, there is a guy (I'm a girl) I was very interested in. He and I met through our respective work and seemed to really connect over many long and personal emails, but had only hung out by ourselves a couple of times when this all happened.
During the manic episode, I wrote him florid love letters about how incredible I thought he was, and a variety of other inappropriate (but positive) messages. Of course, I'm cringing now, but it's all water under the bridge, right? Nothing can change what's been done.
So far, the only thing I've done is send him (and others who were directly affected), a short apology explaining that I was unwell and sorry for the untoward emails, etc.
The problem is, he hasn't responded. He's a very shy, nerdy kind of guy who's had limited relationship experience (we're both 31). I wonder if I should wait another few weeks (months?) and reach out with a more complete explanation? Or just give it up as dead. Or just wait and see?
I can't read his mind, so I have no idea what he's thinking, or what he would need to hear to want to resume contact with me.
Or maybe the whole thing is just too raw to touch right now?