My brother shot himself to death last night. I feel numb. My therapist is out of pocket for a week. Things need to happen. Suggestions?
I got the worst phone call in the world four hours ago. My youngest brother killed himself. He had threatened suicide 20 years ago when he broke up with a girlfriend, and had been on anti-depressants since.
I'm not sure what lead to his action. Apparently, there are notes. As I said, I feel numb -- a few tears, but just numb. My husband (the subject of this previous AskMe
) is here and offering his support. He was fond of my brother as well.
My therapist is on a well-deserved holiday and out of town until next Tuesday. I am not contemplating anything rash. I'm not interested in talking to a new therapist in the interim.
Forgive me if these questions seem cold or unfeeling -- as I said, I'm not feeling much of anything at the moment, just thinking about practical matters:
1. My brother shot himself in his apartment. This is a crime scene which will need to cleaned up. How much will it cost and who do we call? (It's in Southern California).
2. My husband (soon-to-be-ex, it seems, but we're still married and live together) owed my brother $27000. There was no proxy note or anything paperwork stating such -- it was a "gentlemen's agreement." What happens now? My brother has no heirs.
3. Given the strained relationship between my family and my husband (they know about his infidelity), would it be wise for him to be with me and the family at this time? He did love my brother.
I am 400 miles away from family at the moment.
Again, I apologize for the chilly tone. I wish this was a nightmare I could wake up from, truly.
What else should I need to think about or deal with, near-term and long-term?