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March 17, 2012 2:32 PM Subscribe
CleanPersonFilter: I'm driving my mother crazy.
posted by woodvine to human relations (40 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I'm the single mom of an 18 month old. We're living in my mother's (rather large) house with my stepfather and sister. She is generously taking care of rent and utilities while I finish school. Expected graduation is December 2013.
My mother and I have different "grunge levels." She would prefer the house to be perfectly neat all the time, and spends a lot of her free time cleaning. I literally do not see messes unless I am actively looking for them. I try not to be a grossly messy person, but sometimes I am. I just don't care about messes. This, combined with my being a full-time student with a part-time job, parenting, beginning an internship, and my active involvement in a student organization, means that cleaning is the last thing on my long list of things to do.
So this situation is driving my mom crazy. Sometimes I get the opportunity to go out and have fun, and this seems to annoy her because I'm not spending enough time cleaning the house. I am at my wit's end because I can't seem to train my brain to make this a priority and we're going around in a shame spiral where she gets madder and I clean less. How can I make myself clean? How can I make myself care about cleaning and actively want to do it? I'd hire a cleaning person, but money is tight.