Roommates dog craps in my room - roommate doesn't care.
March 2, 2012 3:57 PM Subscribe
How can I convince my roommate to put her dog away when she leaves, especially when it isn't potty trained and craps everywhere?
posted by isaynay to Pets & Animals (56 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Ok I did a bit of searching around in old posts and didn't come up with much, so here goes.
I live with three generally good roommates. One A, fostered a dog for six months before another roommate, C, adopted the dog. When the dog first came into the home she was not house trained and would be put in her crate when no one was home and if I came home first I was happy to take her out to potty and scoop the poop. Eventually A became more lax and started just closing the dog in her room. It's her room, whatever.
Recently though, now that ownership has transferred to C (who is very inexperienced with dogs), the dog is just being left to roam the house because "A said it was ok." The dog is still not potty trained, so this means that I usually come home and she has pooped/peed in the living room or in someones room. I generally kept my door closed because my own foster dog, who is potty trained and stays in her crate when I'm gone, was crated in there. She has since been adopted so I now leave my door open occasionally.
I have made it clear that I take no responsibility for the dog. I'm not responsible for feeding her or taking her out. I only feed her if I am asked, out of politeness, take her out if I know she's been trapped inside all day, and make sure she goes to the bathroom if I am the last to leave. These are favors, not obligations. I do, however, put the dog away in her crate if I am the last to leave and she had been left out. I do this out of consideration for everyone in the house, because I assume they do not actually want the dog crapping all over the floor.
I think this is quite generous of me, since not one of them gave a toss about my dog. I took full, 100% responsibility for my foster and we never had a problem. They didn't hang out with her or feed/toilet her. No problem. I therefore expect this other dog to be her owners responsibility, especially since I don't hang out with her. She is out for 15 minutes at the most when I take her to toilet.
But I'm getting fed up. I have asked A and C both to please put the dog in one of their rooms or in her crate when they leave the house because she is not potty trained and I am tired of cleaning it up, yet I am constantly opening the front door to find an empty house and dirty carpet. Today she had pooped in my room, which I find totally unacceptable.
My third roommate, N, argues that *sometimes* the dog holds it so it's reasonable for them to expect her to hold it all of the time. She also argues that if the dog is out when she comes home she has no reason to put her away when she leaves.
A argues that the dog is C's responsibility and therefore, if she is the last one home, she has no reason to make sure the dog has peed before she leaves or to put the dog somewhere secure. This means that quite often C will leave the dog out with A, who loves to hang out with the dog, and then A just leaves the dog out when she leaves. And then the dog poops in the main house or my room because nobody took her out or closed her away.
C doesn't know the first thing about dogs or their training and just forgets a lot. I would never have placed my dog with her, had she been interested, just because she never remembers things like this.
Just now, N came home while I was taking the dog out to the bathroom (after cleaning up the poo in my room). I put the dog in her crate because I did not want to hang out with her and closed myself in my room. N let her out. N then left the house and left the dog out wandering around. I texted her about it and she said the dog was out when she got home and I was home so she left her out. But I was closed in my room, clearly having nothing to do with the dog...
Am I crazy or is something wrong here? Especially since I've asked them repeatedly and they're now arguing with me about it. My boyfriend says I'm being overdramatic, but this has been an ongoing issue and I think I have a right to come home and not have to clean poop out of my bedroom. I have trodden in it in the dark before and am just sick of it. Whatever happened to potty training and responsible pet ownership?
Is there any way I can actually get my point across? I feel a little above leaving the poo in the living room for them to clean up, but I'm honestly considering leaving the crap in their rooms at this point. I'm obviously going to be closing my door all the time from now on. I just really would like to avoid this becoming even more petty.