I'm casually critical much of the time. I'd like to change that. I'd especially like to stop casually criticizing and reflexively disagreeing with loved ones.
My criticisms aren't severe, but they are frequent. Typical examples:
Friend: "My doctor gave me this cough medicine" Me: "Cough medicine doesn't work."
Friend: "I am so annoyed at my ex husband for doing xyz", Me: "I really think you shouldn't ask him to do abc!"
Friend: "I love this band". Me: "What?! Are you serious?"
This is something that has consistently bothered partners. I do it a lot with a few specific friends and to a lesser degree with others. I am not mean, just reflexively negative and mildly invalidating much of the time. Often, as in the last example, I say these things in a joking tone, but I recognize that only goes so far if I do it too much. In my defense, I have improved with age, meditation, and attempts to reduce these behaviors. Also, I'm not trying to totally stop these since they are pretty mild, just stop doing them so much!
I read this great comment
and am wishing someone would do this for me! In leu of that, maybe I can train myself somehow.