Help me stop being mean.
September 12, 2012 8:17 AM Subscribe
I am unnecessarily and randomly critical of people. It is worse when I am stressed. This impacts my friendships, home life, and work. I need to stop.
posted by domo to Human Relations (34 answers total) 31 users marked this as a favorite
My mother's side of the family is not for the thin-skinned. My mother, my aunts, my grandmother and my cousins (and needless to say myself), are constantly criticizing each other. It's mean and it hurts. I can't remember a get-together growing up where no one cried.
Cut to today where I get frustrated with coworkers and get "emotional" (read: snippy, snarky, rude). Yeah, so he lost the 25-foot dvi-hdmi cable I bought for the video conference system and then tried to act like it never existed. It was probably not good manners to find the invoice with his name on the shipping label and call him a liar. Or yell at him over the phone for losing it. Even though we have a really important video conference first thing in the morning.
This is something that comes up during my yearly reviews. It is known around the office that I am quick to anger and that I should be avoided if stressed. I don't want to be like this. Are there any books, meditations, exercises, therapy that you would suggest?