Where to scatter ashes
February 27, 2012 9:24 AM Subscribe
What do we do with our daughter's ashes?
posted by Nathanial Hörnblowér to human relations (16 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Our daughter was stillborn last spring and her ashes have been at my in-laws house since then. With the one year date approaching in April we are trying to move forward with our lives and think it would be helpful to make this decision as part of that. We are not religious and have no need for a location that we can visit, such as a cemetery. We live in a condo so putting them in the back yard or planting a tree as part of the process is not an option. My in-laws are in the process of selling their house so scattering them there is also not an option. My family has a vacation home in another state that is one of my favorite places in the world and we've talked about planting a tree and scattering them there. But will that change how I feel about going there in the future? Will it just make me sad to be there? This feels very different from dealing with the ashes of a parent or other loved one who would have had favorite places in their lives, so please no stories about where you scattered your great-grandfather after his death.