My options are limited
February 26, 2012 2:39 PM Subscribe
My long term relationship has ended. It was so long overdue. Even still it didn't happen the way I would have hoped. My partner raged at me for hours over who knows what. It wasn't the first time. Things turned physical and it was the ugliest scariest situation I can remember experiencing.
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After that I realized that I wouldn't have the luxury of finding a new place. Family members showed up, packed a bunch of my stuff up, packed my pets up, and that's it.
My ex isn't taking this well and can't believe that i've done this "to them". We'd broken up before after a similar situation. I know I'm not supposed to play internet doctor but I feel very strongly that my partner may have bpd. And I am most definitely co-dependent. Realizing that was like a kick in the gut but definitely made me realize that I needed out.
So. I ended up leaving my apartment. Mine because I pay the bills. But both of our names are on the lease. Partner can not pay for the apartment. I've been looking for places and have had to face several facts. My credit is horrendous. I have pets. No co-signer or guarantor. One person said i would need to have 5 months of security. Obviously I want the apartment that I was living in. Is this completely foolish considering everything that happened? Is there some way to make this work if my former partner leaves? If not, how do I go about finding an apartment considering my awful credit and pets. I feel completely displaced and angry and bitter. I want my life back feel like i'm going nuts living in someone elses space.