what kind of aunt am I?
January 28, 2012 9:06 AM Subscribe
My nephew is 5 weeks old, and I still didn't go and see him. How bad, abnormal am I?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (52 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
The day after my brother and SIL got a baby, everybody took the train / plane / car to go and see him. I wanted to come too, but because it was not totally expected (the baby came two weeks earlier than expected) and because it was Christmas time I had a hard time finding a plane / train that would bring me to them. My parents told me that I could wait a bit and come a little later, that it was no big deal.
I was so happy for my brother and SIL but I wasn't like "oh, I can't wait to see my nephew", so I waited.
And I am still waiting. The end of semester at school is pretty tough, I work every day, I don't have one free weekend. But I am wondering : if I really wanted to go and see my nephew earlier I would gone and seen him, right?
Yesterday I asked my brother when I could come and he told me that next week was perfect.
I'm feeling bad, and here are my questions :
- am I selfish for not showing up when the baby came? Maybe I hurt my brother and his fiancé? (I know I'll have to ask them this question).
-Is not being thrilled by the birth of a baby abnormal?
I am not fond of babies, I don't feel anything particular when I hear that so and so got a baby. But I'm happy around kids though, I love playing with them, telling them stories, etc.
Some information that might be relevant : I'm female, 24, in a wonderful relationship with an awesome guy. My brother is two years older, and it's his first baby. Though we are not deeply close I have a great, healthy bond with my brother.
Here's my throwaway email : firstname.lastname@example.org
Thank you in advance for your help!