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December 19, 2011 4:25 PM Subscribe
What questions should I ask myself before getting engaged?
posted by anonymous to human relations (23 answers total) 60 users marked this as a favorite
My SO and have broached the subject of getting married and spending the rest of our lives together. Yay! So excited! But we’re both cautious, thoughtful people and have both said that we’re going to need a few months to think about it and talk it out with each other before we get serious about an engagement.
There are some great posts on the green about what couple should talk about so they’re on the same page before getting engaged, and I’ll be using those to start some conversations. But this question is more introspective: what do I need to ask myself to make sure this is what I want, and I’m not just getting caught up in the excitement?
I’m excited, but I want to be sure I’ve thought this through and I’m not just getting swept up in the idea of marriage. Rather than ask internet strangers to evaluate my relationship, I’d like ideas for what questions I should be asking myself and what I should be thinking about to make sure I’m going into this with my eyes open. What are those questions I should ask myself?
I don’t think there will be a silver-bullet question that 100% guarantees happiness or anything. I just want to think through this big decision a bit since it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of the idea and fail to really consider the reality. So I think it will be helpful to get a variety of responses and consider many of them.