Please help me talk to my relative about his marijuana problem...
November 28, 2011 2:01 PM Subscribe
How can I talk to my relative about his marijuana problem?
posted by anonymous to human relations (30 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My brother has a marijuana problem. I don't know how to talk to him about it.
I used to smoke (I haven't for almost a year) and I attribute part of my health and mental well-being to my cessation of what was to me a harmful marijuana habit. I understand substances are different for everybody but I'm beginning to see very similar patterns about my brother's detrimental habit to mine and when I talk to him about it he always tells me how can YOU talk advice to me if you were once a pothead and "to each his own". He's very self-aware about his problem and always has this way of "beating" me to whatever I'm about to say about it as if to shield himself from my advice because I have nothing new to say to him he doesn't already know. He denies that pot is his main problem - though he admits it's a problem.
My brother works in a stressful work environment and is not making a lot of money. He has little drive to seek something else but he's endlessly verbal and aware about what he intends to do once he finally stops smoking pot and passes drug tests to get the jobs he wants to apply for. This has been going on for two years. He says he's "quitting next month" and two years have gone by like this. When confronted with this, he says stuff to the effect of "this or that got in the way; I'll quit next month".
He's very defensive about his constant smoking and I'm afraid he's going to have to hit bottom to finally get what's wrong with smoking an eighth per week like it's just a lifestyle choice with little bearing on his attitude toward life and those around him.
What sort of steps do you suggest a sibling can take to helping his brother even see he may have a problem? Are there some books I can give him? Youtube videos?
Do you suggest therapy/professional help? (I've told him about this but he says even if he were willing to try it he doesn't have enough money for this nor health insurance).
Thanks in advance MeFi.