Please help me find some alternative activities to drugs and booze - stuff to keep me diverted and entertained during the long nights of insomnia and loneliness I'm looking forward to over the next few months. I'm looking for both general and specific recommendations - books to read, films to watch, games to play, things to cook and activities outside the house I could get involved in.
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I'm a 30 year old woman and for the last fifteen years, drugs have been a part of my life. Sometimes a fairly minor part (a joint or two in the evenings, several on weekend days), sometimes a major part (smoking weed all day, every day and not working, or indulging heavily in Class As - coke, pills and speed at the weekends while partying and struggling to get back in shape for Monday). I also enjoy drinking (couple of beers/glasses of wine a night usually), and I do struggle with substituting one vice for another and calling it self-improvement (cutting down on the weed? No problem kiddo, open that bottle of wine!). I call it 'addiction cycling', because to me it feels like this self-sustaining cycle of vice. The monkey might change species, but remains firmly on my back.
I'm a fairly high-functioning drug user, so it's never been a problem for me to work - I used to run my own business, now I work in a fairly decent job for a prestigious employer. I'm not quite management level, but I do have a degree of autonomy and responsibility and I do fairly interesting work. But in light of recent illness, mood swings, depression, memory loss, sketchy junkie behaviours and a burgeoning inability to do the stuff I should be doing in the workplace, I've realised that I need to make a massive change and cut this stuff out of my life. I also wonder what my clever brain could do if I didn't have life set on the highest difficulty setting all the time!
I have a plan for quitting, I'm going against all good advice and quitting everything straight away, cold turkey and that bit isn't my major concern at this stage, so I don't require help or advice on that aspect right now, thanks. My problem is I don't know what I'm going to do now that drugs aren't part of my life. Obtaining them took time, using them took time and a lot of my friends tend to do drugs regularly too, attending events which are basically designed around drug-taking (think psychedelic hippie parties, illegal raves, etc), so there will be a period of not seeing these people while I find my sober feet, which I'm expecting to be a bit lonely. Right now, the thought of not having a bedtime spliff makes me nervy, but the idea of the long nights and longer weekends on my own makes me panic!
I've toyed with the idea of getting a second job to pay off debts, or throwing myself into my day job, so I'm relatively flexible about how traditionally entertaining the activity is considered to be, I just need distractions and lots of them! One thing I don't want to do is add too much additional pressure to my situation - quitting will be a major thing for me, I don't want to 'punish' myself by setting any rigid exercise or eating goals, for example.
I'm in the UK, I'm reasonably clever and I like entertaining stuff that's a bit like this:-
TV - Dexter, It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, Weeds, Breaking Bad, The Wire
Films - Judd Apatow, quirky indie movies, dark comedies
Games - Fallout 3, GTA 3 onwards, Sims 3, Civilization
I've been told that my tastes and moods will change wildly and unexpectedly over the coming weeks, so I'm not going to be rigid about stuff being in the same vein as stuff I've done before, I honestly have no idea what I'd enjoy doing if I was sober.
I live on my own and have my own transport, so I've got freedom, and enough money that I can spring for a regular class or a meal out or something, although I don't have masses of spare cash lying around.
TL;DR: I'm a single 30 year-old living in a busy city with most amenities. Please help me have the time of my life without drugs and booze!