October 31, 2011 10:59 AM Subscribe
I have warm fuzzy feelings and inclinations to do nice things for people. Does this make me unprofessional? How do I talk myself out of it, if so? I'm in academia.
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur to human relations (39 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Today's case in point: I've just obtained the fifth and final member of my dissertation committee, and I consider the group a Dream Team. I feel so fortunate to be working with these amazing professors and pleased that they are giving me their time. I want to make them pies.
Literally. I keep thinking "peach, apple, blueberry?"
I understand that dissertation committee members are sometimes presented with stodgy professionally-oriented gifts after the defense, but my Americana FarmGirl roots just can't resist celebrating this milestone with a round of happy baking and a chance to show personal appreciation.
I'm not certain it would be considered inappropriate. I am in a very liberal field and a pretty friendly department. And who can hate on pie?
Has anybody had experiences with feeling this way or navigating academia in terms of amity and old-fashioned niceties, and conflicts with ivory professionalism?