Boyfriend reconnecting with an ex, good or bad idea?
October 4, 2011 6:32 PM Subscribe
My boyfriend is catching up with an old girlfriend and I want to be okay with it.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (37 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
They broke up like ten years ago (he was the other man in a very messy situation). They were friends before, but after they cut ties. Now she's emailed him to apologize for being such a bitch back then, and they're "catching up". I want to be okay with this, but past apologizing, I can't see the point. Do they want to be friends again? And why? After so long they're different people leading different lives. Why reach out after all this time? It seems disrespectful to her husband and to me, the girlfriend, to try to rekindle a relationship with a foremer flame. Once I've broken up with someone I generally want to move on and see no reason to try to relive the past. Maybe they're different? I just don't want to come off as jealous or controlling, so should I ignore it and let them reconnect?