I Feel So Average
September 18, 2011 2:42 PM Subscribe
I feel so average and uninteresting. What can I do to remedy this situation?
posted by anonymous to human relations (22 answers total) 41 users marked this as a favorite
I am a mother, a wife. I have a bachelor's degree. I have a decent job. I am middle class. Middle class doesn't bother me. What bothers me is that I compare myself to others who are more successful and interesting than I am. I work part-time. I'm not a workaholic and I don't want to be. However, I am always impressed by people with advanced degrees and who are working in interesting jobs. I am a nurse, so I could go back for my master's degree but I don't want to.
More than anything I am constantly trying to brainstorm on how to become more appealing and interesting. I get down on myself that I am not more motivated. I get down on myself that I don't have a lot of flair or style and that my life is just so average. Because I have these insecurities I will sometimes look at my husband and think he is unmotivated and not ambitious enough. And when I say ambitious I do not mean money. I mean life in general. There is very little zest! Just last night I met this very interesting person that has this very interesting high-powered job and then I went home and saw my husband playing video games on a Saturday night, as usual, and I get depressed and antsy.
I need to do something different. I find myself wanting to be appealing to high powered people, or people who are smarter than I am. I'm also impressed by "cool" people -- people who have interesting hobbies or people who have a lot of friends and are well liked. I want to be in their crowd but I'm afraid I'm not. It's silly really. I know it is. Intellectually I know average is okay. I'm not a complete slouch. I have a good job. I have a great family. I exercise. I am interested in life. I have hobbies. I have friends. My life is not exciting. I don't have parties to go to. I pretty much socialize with my family and a couple of friends. I know I'm worthy and all that but what can I do to alleviate these feelings? I have had them on and off at varying degrees my entire life.
Thanks very much.